How To Get The Life You Want

It doesn’t really matter how you define success…

…happiness and an overall sense of well being or making more money from your personal training business, or having the freedom to do the things you want when you want – it’s all managed by your subconscious feedback loop.

Your subconscious feed back loop is basically the “system” that governs your thoughts, ideas, feelings, actions and expectations of yourself and others. It’s like the software program that’s always running in the background and influencing your every action – only difference is that this software can be reprogrammed by your environment and others to make you do things without even realizing it.

I know this sounds crazy, and before you think that I’ve completely lost my mind let me explain to you what I mean because this stuff is backed by science.

See the subconscious feedback loop is very powerful because it works on the mind at a deeper level, a level that you’re not even aware of. In fact I just did a quick google search for “subconscious mind” and found this article in the New York Times that explains how easy it is to alter a persons perception or judgment.

Here’s a small piece of the article…

In a recent experiment, psychologists at Yale altered people’s judgments of a stranger by handing them a cup of coffee.

The study participants, college students, had no idea that their social instincts were being deliberately manipulated. On the way to the laboratory, they had bumped into a laboratory assistant, who was holding textbooks, a clipboard, papers and a cup of hot or iced coffee — and asked for a hand with the cup.

That was all it took: The students who held a cup of iced coffee rated a hypothetical person they later read about as being much colder, less social and more selfish than did their fellow students, who had momentarily held a cup of hot java.

Here’s what all this has to do with you, your personal training or fitness boot camp business and the level of success (or failure) you achieve.

My buddy Frank Kern has a video out on the interwebs somewhere where he explains how outside factors influence your thoughts, decisions and actions AND ultimately your ability or desire to make money.

It’s like this, your success is influenced by two major factors:

1. The people your associate with.

2. The thoughts that enter your mind

Back in 2003 we took at family cruise to Alaska and did the whole glacier thing. Very cool, actually. One of the ports that the ship stopped at was a town where they did a lot of fishing for crabs.

As we were walking along the water checking out the scenery and stuff I saw a man who was fishing off the rocks for crabs and he had a five gallon bucket next to him and in it were a bunch of crabs, each about the size of your hand.

As we stood there watching him do his thing I noticed that one ambitious crab was climbing on top of the other ones and was getting reading to reach up for the rim of the bucket and boost himself up to freedom. This little sucker was going to make a run for it!

Just as the little crab started reaching for the rim of the bucket, all the other crabs in the bucket reached up, grabbed him by the legs and pulled him right down. I WAS BLOWN AWAY BY WHAT I JUST SAW!

The crab fisherman explained to me that crabs do that instinctively and so he never needs to put a lid on the bucket.

HOLY SHIT! I totally realized that we all have crabs in our lives. Some are family members, others friends and co-workers. But we all have crabs (that didn’t sound right…lol).

For me, the solution was simple. I decided on the spot that I’m going to cut out all the crabs in my life. And I did.

It was an easy decision for me.

I knew what I wanted in life (freedom, money, and to never have to live by other people’s values and schedule) and I was surrounded by people who said they wanted the best for me, but in reality all they did was question my sanity when I came up with business ideas and thought that I should consider getting a steady job to have something to “fall back on”.

Today I hang out with other success minded, free thinking, financially free people who encourage, motivate, and share their success secrets. The people I associate with these days are different than the people I had around me back in 2003.

Then there are the thoughts that enter your mind. And these are the things that influence your feedback loop because they control, alter, and manage your subconscious mind…

… and your subconscious mind controls conscious mind which is what makes you do the things you do minute by minute.

It’s like this.

Say you want MONEY, for you to have money you have to SELL something. In order for you to sell something you need to take an ACTION like putting an offer together. For you to take that action you need make a DECISION to do something. But your decisions are controlled by your THOUGHTS and your thoughts are formed by the INPUT that goes into your conscious and subconscious mind.

Money >> Sell >> Action >> Decision >> Thoughts >> Input

The input that you get comes from the things you watch, listen to, read, and surround yourself with.

The example Frank gave in his video was this. If you watch the news then all you hear is about is DANGER. And if you listen to gossip then you believe that PEOPLE ARE BAD, and when you read the papers all you see is UNEMPLOYMENT, BAD ECONOMY, and SCARCITY.

I don’t know about you, but if the thoughts that are floating around in my mind are danger, people are bad, the economy, unemployment, and scarcity then the actions I take are not going to result in making sales and generating more money.

Call me crazy but that’s just how my mind works. And whether you know it or not, that how YOUR mind works to. So if I were you I’m ruthlessly manage the INPUT that’s coming in because your “subconscious feedback loop” is always running in the background and influencing your thoughts, decisions, actions and ultimately your happiness.

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