How to Overcome Fear and Doubt and Get Anything You Want In Life

I deal with fear and doubt all of the time, but I am learning to face it head on. In the past couple of weeks I have felt more uncomfortable than I have my entire life (thanks to Steve and Bedros), but I know it is making me stronger and I have learned so much already. You have to face fear and doubt head on and dominate it.

Bedros thanks for the daily positive reinforcements. Everyday I get up and read your postings I feel I am ready to go out there and conquer my day!

Great Post Bedros! I’ve been using Steve’s methods since FIS and they’ve been working wonders. I’ll start doing more things to put me out of my comfort zone and start gaining courage in my life and in my business.

It may take me a little while to reach your “Courageous Lion” status, but I’m sure as hell gonna get there!

Thanks for always delivering the BEST content!

B, say the word and I’ll go skydiving with you.

JC

KILLER post B…

Fear and Doubts are either paralyzing or a kick up the ass to get you moving. As you mentioned Fear and Doubt are emotions that stem from Uncertainty… “What if it doesn’t work” and you are spot on when we then rationalize and tell ourselves it’s not our fault… the weather was bad… the owner was rude… etc. we can all come up with thousands of reasons which then make us feel a little better about ourselves by taking the responsibility and giving it to someone or something else… means we don’t have to face it

Everyone will always have fears and doubts at some point and as mentioned the trick is to make them your botch and use them to move you to action…

How have I done this previously? Well I went skydiving from 14000 feet for 1…. and something more close to home I came to a foreign place with no friends, no family and no guarantees.. just the love that I had for one special person (without no guarantees of getting it back…she hadnt even said it yet) and a vision to help as many people as I can through my lifes experiences and practices in this grand part of the world.

Being 12000 miles from home means you have a whole different set of fears and doubts and the character it builds by overcoming them and using them for the greater good is unbelievable rewarding.. and those lessons I pass on to all my clients, colleagues, friends and family. (which is the real gift)

Remember that being the example enables you to then share such experiences with others in times of their need… which is what we see each day from one Mr. keuilian

Thanks for an awesome post B

AT

Great Post Bedros. A mentor told me once..FAil and Fail fast…so that you may come back out with that learning experience. In Martial Arts, getting popped in the face is the best experience to know to NEVER put your hands down. SOmetimes we all need to popped in the face.

But it doesn’t matter if you WONT STEP IN THE RING…

Here is a quote for all to Enjoy:

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one” Elbert Hubbard (1856 - 1915)

Awesome Post!… We all deal with fear and doubt on a daily basis and it’s what you do to handle that fear and doubt that shapes your destiny and future… I for one look both in the face and kick butt… It’s allot of fun and very rewarding.

Awesome post!!!! Very motivating. Probably one of the top three posts I think you have posted. Thanks. Im gonna go get some shit done NOW!

Perfect timing for an article like this! Thank you!

Great Post bedros,

after reading it, I got on the phone and called 5 hair dressers and set up appointments for them to be my referral generators in exchange for bootcamp. I don’t know why I’ve been so nervous about doing this. Guess Fear of rejection even tho I’m offering something really great.

I’m going to think of this post every time I have to do something uncomfortable and try not to care what people think about me.

Very insightful Bedros! You’re spot on… fear and doubt limit us in so many ways and I’ve felt the effects of them for a long time in my life. It was these beliefs that kept me from living up to my highest potential.

It starts with changing your beliefs… mistakes aren’t bad… failure isn’t bad… they are just part of the learning process. SO like you said “fail more often.” Think of how many times Edison failed before he finally found the right filament for the lightbulb.

Also, we all need to realize that we ARE good enough, and must find the same respect for ourselves that we would give to others. If you doubt your own worthiness… then you’ll always give up, quit, and continue to experience lack in your life. We must learn to see our own innate value.

Rock on Bedros!

Brandon

Aja,

you are right my friend… fear of rejection… it is probably the 1 Fear that has plagued me throughout my life and has therefore needed a good ole fashioned ass kickin when it does show up. Isn’t it funny how we make up stories in our heads about what might happen if you do call? when in reality we have no idea what will happen… we can direct it and follow a script and aim for it to work out all rosy… and then the spanner in the works comes in to stuff you up…

the great thing is that word will spread in your community to those people that have said no and “rejected” you and then they;; be begging to get on board..

the thing to remember to is that very often they are not rejecting you… almost always it has to do with them

keep us updated Aja on how it’s all going for you

cheers

AT

Thanks for the post.I’ve had trouble with this for a long time and need to get over it in order to be successful.

And I also agree with Brandon that we have to build our self worth in order to achieve our goals.

Thanks again

If you’re not uncomfortable you’re not growing.

Thanks for the pep talk, Bedros.

Have a great day.

Great Post…Probably the best so far. Great seeing you and the guys at the Fitness Info Summit. Awesome presentation!
Keep it coming Bedros.

Im with carter, let’s go skydiving.

Really good post B-

John

Bedros, this post is inspiring and hit the nail right on the head. One of your best yet! Been in the fitness industry over 15 years, working on getting my own thing going and reading posts like this help motivate me to keep jumping in with both feet!
If you don’t believe in yourself..no one else will.

excellent post, bedros. and it is so true….within the last week, i have taken the biggest step of faith in my life! but when the fear/doubt monster creeps in, i keep telling myself: massive action. just do it. believe. try. i can do it. and it works! thanks for the post!

Thanks for the reminder to grab life by the huevos Bedros! I just came back from your Orlando meeting and it has inspired so much. Gonna stop the fear and doubt today!

Bedros,

You are dead on! I think this is also the reason why many overweight people don’t lose weight, they self sabotage themselves and have many underlying reasons/fears/doubts to why they don’t deserve or are able to lose weight and be healthy.

I have found this to be one of the toughest yet rewarding parts of my career!

Dustin

PS Bedros, cant wait to see you in orlando soon!

BK,
You’re so right. I’m reminded of a quote by my favorite author, Dr. Edwin Louis Cole: “Both faith and fear attract. Faith attracts the positive, and fear attracts the negative.” - Power of Potential book

Thanks again!

Bedros,
Fantastic post. Just what I needed this week. Your are so “RIGHT ON” Thanks for keeping it so real. BTW, I’ve taken the (skydiving)plunge 4 times. It’s incredible!!
Karma

Bedros,

Excellent post with impeccable timing. My business partner and I have been gunning for our biggest fears since FIS. Some days we lose, some days we have small victories, but most importantly we keep coming back for more.

We have trouble getting up the nerve to talk to people and get them into boot camp, but when we begin to doubt we just re-read Steve’s post on “Child Abuse” and remember that we are literally saving lives.

Thank you for the direction and boot-to-ass motivation.

- C

So true Bedros’! You pumped me and I’ve been getting outside my comfort zone all day today since reading your post.

It’s crazy to think how much we get down about the 5% or so people who are unhappy with our services & we forget about the 95% who are happy as clams with us. FEAR AND DOUBT are success killers, thanks for sharing this with us…one of my favorite posts in a while.

Great post B! F%ck Fear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Very inspirational post. It’s good to hear this kind of stuff now and again. Meditating in the car right before I go to the studio or try a joint venture really helps me get my mind right for the day.Keep shooting more motivational posts.

This is a great post. Keep up the good work. Thanks for the peep talk.

Great post. ditto on the fear part, its something im still overcoming

Great stuff Bedros! I look forward kicking fears ASS in the caching group with you guys. See you soon!

The BEST post yet Bedros!!! I certainly needed it. Thanks for the pep talk coach! Now, let’s go out there and kick some A@#!!!

Bedros,

I’m about to graduate college with my exercise science degree and have been going to interviews like crazy the last few weeks. I can’t tell you how much your advice has helped me KILL every single one. In my last interview for a fitness club I had one minute sell the guy a stapler as part of the interview. Yeah thats right, a STAPLER!!! Because of your tips I was able to do it and do it with confidence. I actually had the interviewer at the end of the sale ask me if he could buy them in bulk. It was THAT GOOD!! Thanks for all of your post. They’ve been a blessing and I hope you continue to do more. This one today was just what I needed!!! Thanks again!!

I agree with the rest, this was a great post! You are sooo right. How many I wish, if only, what if’s do we want in our lives. No more for me! I will act on my dreams, goals and desires and continue taking action until they are met and I make new goals and take new actions. I’m going to contact people whom I want to be mentored by until someone says, “Yes.”

Thank you for the inspirational kick in the butt.

Great post! You are really inspiring!! When is your next big business summit coming/where?

Awesome post! Funny thing I’m reading this today…I put in my two week notice at my part-time job earlier today!!! I had recently dropped down to only two days per week and used the new free time to focus on my business and it payed off better than I had imagined so now I’m taking the leap and I will only be working for one person…myself.

I like that someone else is getting on the hair salon client generator idea, that’s the next thing I’ll be hitting up in the next few days too. I’ve already primed a few salons by asking my clients to talk to their hairdresser for me. I’ve got a lot more things that I will be working that I’ve wanted to get done and now I’m reminded to just do it, get it done already! Thanks!

Doug Seamans
PRIDE Conditioning
http://www.prideconditioning.com

Bedros,

Good message, even better timing!!!

Hey Bedros,
I love the way you write, it is so true and real.

From the books I’m reading lately, certainly fear is nothing to be ‘feared’ but embraced.

I’m learning every day to care less and less whether people like me or not, fear of rejection I think is quite big in our society.

It’s a journey, but we will get there day by day if we read and listen to the right things

Thanks for the encouraging post

Hey Bedros
Killer post buddy!

This is awesome advice, i tryed this technique only a couple of days ago. I was presenting to a group of trainers that i had not met before. After introducing myself i told them i wanted to create some energy in the room, so got them to stand up and repeate what i did. I pulled my scariest war face and screamed as loud as i could.

These guys looked at me as if i should be locked up, so i got them to do the same thing a couple of times, these guys could hardly do it the third time for laughing so much.

It was such a random thing to do but got everyone laughing and focused on what i had to say. It went down a storm just completey doing something out there and made the rest of the presentation an absolute breeze!!

Thanks for the advice buddy!

Excellent advice Bedros. This is something I’m sure we all deal with to some extent, but overcoming fears in necessary to make progress.

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gotta have proper balance of shortcomings and accomplishments, that’s for sure…

Thanks for the in-ya-face and smack-upside-the-head advice. Couldn’t have come at a more perfect time when I came across your site. I’ll be adding you to my network list.

The way I figure it, when I’m feeling too cushy and comfortable, that’s when I get bored and ansy and need to stir things up. In other words, I make change happen and that starts a change reaction. You really won’t have the time to be worried. Thanks for all you have done for me, Bedros. I have taken action on alot of your ideas and that is hugely empowering.

This Would have to be the best post on this, Steve’s or Chris’s site i have read yet.

Thanks Bedros

Hi Bedros

While I applaud you for telling folks to just “do it”, it is very limited in it’s approach to how success or wealth is really created. You did hit the nail on the head when you refer to limiting beliefs and if I may I’d like to add more to what you’ve already said. Success starts with deciding you are no longer willing to live with the circumstances you have in front of you. You have to make a conscious decision to take the necessary action to identify what’s holding you back and how to turn it around so that you can achieve the goals and dreams you’ve always wanted. You have to discover and release your full purpose, potential and destiny in life. How do you do that? Well, you can become wealthy or successful by training your mind to achieve the objective and that to achieve wealth; you must want wealth and condition your mind to attract wealth. You must have a proven belief that YOU can become wealthy and successful. And so… here’s what I know for absolute certainty is that you and I hold beliefs about money, wealth and achievement. And what you believe dictates the type of relationship you have with success—and the wealth that your success produces. That your inner world creates your outer results. A wealthy mind allows you to create the outer results that you want by transforming the inner world that you bring to it. Put simply, if your goal is to become wealthy, make more money at work or in your business but you have a belief system says that you don’t deserve to have money; you’ll unconsciously find ways to ensure that you don’t end up with a lot of money. You mention that in your post along with how fear and doubt are what guide most people’s decisions. It did mine, it’s what I unconsciously believed, that I didn’t deserve to have money and success and as a result I kept attracting people and situations that helped me sabotage, repeatedly destroy the success I had achieved. I’m betting it’s the same for most of your readers. And… you need to know that the same type of belief systems comes into play no matter what your goal—whether it’s becoming a better parent or loving partner, getting in the best shape of your life or helping your clients to, or learning how to play the guitar. If you believe that you don’t deserve success in these areas it’s not going to happen for you. So, for me, that one sentence written held the secret. Because here’s what I realized; achieving what you want is easy once you have a system and you align your life purpose, vision and goals with a mind programmed for success. Long story short… I found a few mentors who could teach me a proven scientific formula based on neurosciences, quantum physics and accelerated learning technologies that offered a process or a profound technology for change… a way to to recondition or program my mind for success and also a process for completely eliminating limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering one’s and together it’s a system, a process that anyone can follow to achieve success in any area of their lives because it combines the most advanced system for discovering your true life purpose, powerful goal setting along with a 7 step accelerated neuroreconditioning process that creates a mindset that is unstoppable. So, the short answer is… work on removing your limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones!

Linda Black
Wealthy Mind Wealthy Life
Author, Speaker, Success Coach
lindablackinternational@gmailcom

You really hit home with this article,thank you. I am a better person and trainer just from reading what you wrote.

Awesome Bedros. It’s just like the Bible says over and over 365 times (there’s a hint that God’s trying to get across to us for everyday of the year) “fear not”, “be not afraid”, “let not your heart be troubled”.

I totally agree with what you mentioned at the top that no amount of fear or doubt is good. Don’t buy into what some will say that a little fear is good…it’s one of if not THE WORST thing you can do.

Thanks for sharing Bedros.

Thanks Bedros. I’m going to face my fear - fear of conflict - today during a potentially difficult phone call with a current client and - fear of being rejected - by handing out gift certificates outside a coffee house in my studio neighborhood this Saturday.

Hey,Bedros.

You hit the nail right on the head. I have been dealing with social anxiety issues for a long time. I just got done working with a therapist using ACT therapy and feel like I am making progress. My ultimate goal is to open my own training studio, which is kinda tough if you are afraid of people. Thanks for the info. It is very inspirational.

Bedros, this stuff is powerful! Just going through all your self improvement blogs today and wow it’s so true. Thanks for helping us all out. When I first started boot camps I was scared it wouldn’t work, biggest thing that helped me was a book called Feel the fear, and do it anyway. Big Chris had me read it and between that and you’re help it’s been awesome! Thank you

Thanks Sako! Keep killing it dude!

I just found my go to post for that kick in the ass every so often! This really is motivating and exciting for me as I recently just got into the online training game! Thanks Bedros for another amazing blog, and for really getting into the degree the mind plays in success… people have great ideas every day, but if they aren’t dedicated to work and hustle, they won’t succeed! Overcome the dear, and bust your ass and anything is possible!

Adam Linkenauger
Freak Athletics llc
http://www.vertfreak101.com

Nice!

I agree 100%.

It’s hard to face our fears but I think if you can get in the habit of it you’ll notice that life gets a lot more rewarding.

Start small, be consistent and you’ll be the controller of your fears versus living life the other way around.

Crush those fears and get the rewards!

Jeremiah
http://www.howigotabs.com (my personal story)

Gonna kick fear and doubt in the ass…thanks Bedros

Fear and Doubt should be jailed and the key thrown away!!!

Be sensible about tackling new ventures and remember uncertail opportunities are the ones that may turn up roses if you do it right. Use your brains to analyse your new venture and if you can visualise your success, then if you are not retarded, you have the ability to roll it out and realise your dream.

You can’t do it if Doubt and Fear are your business partners. If you are in business with Doudt and Fear, get rid of them NOW.

Hi Bedros,

Great post, this is what I’ve been helping my clients with fear of stress of work, financial, relationship etc. As well as presenting to corporate businesses around my city. The truth is that you have to kick fear and doubt out and just do it, and you’ll get your reward.